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SOFTSKILL. STOP BULLYING
STOP
BULLYING
Bullying is repeated
physical attacks, psychological, social or verbal, is performed in a position
defined situational forces for their own benefit or satisfaction. Bullying is
an early form of aggressive behavior that is abusive behavior. Whether physical,
psychological, through words or any combination of the three. This can be done
by groups or individuals. Perpetrators take advantage of others who saw
vulnerable.
Bullying is an act in
which one or more people try to hurt or control others by violent means. There
are many types of bullying. Could harm the physical forms, such as hitting,
pushing, etc. In the form of verbal was insulting, snapped, and using harsh
words, while the social forms such as isolating, and ignore people. Some
examples of bullying most frequently encountered around us are seniors confront
the younger classes as judged act. Student orientation period that ended badly
because of the excessive seniors work on the new students. Classmates who
considered odd isolated, and no one wants to be friends with him.
There are some issues
that may be suffered by children as victims of bullying. The first is a variety
of mental problems such as depression, anxiety and sleep difficulties, problems
can be carried over until the victim grows into an adult. Bullying would be
very difficult to forget the victims. Secondly, there will be physical health
complaints, such as headaches, abdominal pain and muscle tension. Thirdly,
there is a sense of insecurity right in the school environment. Fourth, there
is a decrease in the spirit of learning and academic achievement. Fifth, in
cases quite rare, victims of bullying will probably indicate the nature of the
violence.
Not only for the
victims, the impact of bullying also affect bullies. When they grow up,
children who commit acts of bullying has a great propensity for violent
behavior, doing crime, engaging in vandalism, taking drugs and alcohol, and
engaging in sexual relations freely. Moreover, sixty percent of boys who bully
her friend in elementary school or junior high school has been convicted at
least once during a crime at the age of 24 years.
Impact
of Bullying
The
impact on the victim, bullying can make a person feel
anxious and frightened. Can affect the concentration of learning in school and
lead them to avoid school. If the bullying continues in the long term it can
affect students' self-esteem, social isolation increases, raises withdrawn
behavior, make teenagers vulnerable to stress and depreciation, as well as
insecurity. Worse yet, bullying can lead teens to do reckless, even kill, or
commit suicide.
If the override
bullying victim repeatedly, then the victim will feel depreciation and angry.
He was angry with himself or against bullies. Even for those around him and to
adults who can not or do not want to help him. It is the ease of starting to
affect academic achievement. Seeing no longer able to come up with constructive
ways to control his life, he may retreat further into isolation.
The
impact on offenders, in general, these actors have a high
confidence with high self-esteem as well. Tend to be aggressive with
pro-violent behavior, typical of people who rampart, irritability and
impulsivity. The perpetrators of this bullying has a strong need to dominate
others and less empathy towards the target. Bullies can not develop healthy
relationships. Less capable of looking at it from another perspective.
Considers that they are strong and preferably so as to affect the pattern of
social relations in the future.
By doing the bullying,
the perpetrator will assume that they have the power of the state. If allowed
to continue without intervention, bullying can lead to the formation of other
behaviors such as child abuse and other criminal behavior.
Why
did happen bullying ? The perpetrators bully get satisfaction
from the oppressive people. He felt stronger and more powerful because there
are people who are afraid of him. Maybe he was thinking, he would gain
popularity in the school as feared by the other students. Another reason is
because they repress their envy in excess of the target of bullying them. They
feel threatened by the presence of someone who is prettier or smarter than
them. Or actually they have a problem that causes them to suppress their anger
to others. They do not know what impact bullyingnya actions against their
victims. So they do not feel guilty for his actions.
Why
could become a victim of bullying ? People who are usually
targeted for repression is a person who has a noticeable difference compared to
the others. This difference could be physical, style of dress, and behavior.
The most common example is the seniors do not like the younger class that act,
so dilabrak out by class brothers. This led the juniors feel scared or afraid
to act wandering around the school.
How
to protect your child from bullying ? First, seek help from
the school. Second, talk to the bullies. Third, empower your child. Fourth,
talk about your own experiences, share your own experiences at school to
children. This will help the child know that he is not alone in such
situations. Fifth, form friendships outside of school, try children involved in
extracurricular activities such as courses, religious activities, scouts, and
others where they can create other social groups and learn new skills.
What
is the solution ? there is a prayer is a prayer of Yunus prayer when he was in the belly of the
fish : Messenger of Allah said : Do you want me to tell about a prayer that
every time you read in any condition, the sad and disastrous spaciousness will
be obtained ? The friend replied : Yes, O Allah's Apostle. He is Allah said: (It is)
the prayer of Yunus As. the fish meal.
“Laillahailla
anta subhanaka inni kuntum minazzolimin”
Meaning: There is no god (worthy of
worship) besides You. Glory to Thee! I was among those who do wrong.
We need proper
guidance, instead of taking the soap opera as a role model but parental
guidance and support from the community, establish good relationships with
others is also needed. As well cleave the Quran and al-Hadith. We are human
intellect. Do not fall into a dark hole and the thrill of the moment.
Do not waste your time
and your youth with negative things. Use your youth with as much as you.
Do not stray off the path. Fun - happy was the thing right, not ngebully !. STOP
BULLYING!!! NOT GOOD FOR GOOD HEALTH FOR LIFE.
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